Vivian Vance, beloved as Ethel Mertz on I Love Lucy, reveals the truth behind decades of Hollywood rumors and myths about her life and career.

 

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In an unexpected turn of events, the legacy of Vivian Vance, the beloved actress known for her role as Ethel Mertz on the iconic television show “I Love Lucy,” has come under renewed scrutiny as she opens up about the harsh realities of her life both on and off the screen.

Vance, who was born Vivian Roberta Jones on July 26, 1909, in Cherryvale, Kansas, has long been the subject of speculation and myth,

particularly regarding her relationship with co-star Lucille Ball and the supposed contract that mandated she gain weight to make Ball appear slimmer.

Vance has finally dispelled these rumors, revealing that the story was merely a joke made by Ball at a party, yet it has persisted for decades as a Hollywood legend.

Vance’s childhood was marked by strict Methodist values and a mother who believed that acting was a disgraceful pursuit. Growing up as the second of six children, she felt isolated in her own family, as her mother’s rigid beliefs clashed with her innate passion for performance.

Her mother often warned her that she would go to hell for her aspirations, leading to a profound internal conflict that would haunt Vance throughout her life.

Despite the oppressive environment, Vance found a spark of creativity when her family moved to Independence, Kansas.

It was here that she began to express her desire to perform, sneaking out at night to dance and sing, eventually catching the attention of a supportive drama teacher, Anna Engelman.

 

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As she pursued her dreams, Vance adopted the stage name Vivian Vance, inspired by folklorist Vance Randolph. This marked a significant turning point in her life, as she moved to Tulsa to chase her ambitions.

By the age of 21, Vance was making her mark on the theater scene, performing at the Albuquerque Little Theater and gaining recognition for her talent.

Her community rallied behind her, even organizing a benefit show to fund her studies in acting in New York City. With little more than a bag of hopes and $50, she boarded a train to the Big Apple, where she faced relentless rejection but remained undeterred.

In 1932, Vance finally landed a chorus role in the Broadway musical “Music in the Air,” which ran for two years, marking the beginning of her ascent in the entertainment industry.

However, while her career flourished, her personal life was fraught with turmoil.

Vance’s first marriage to Joseph Danic Jr. ended in heartbreak after just three years, and her subsequent marriage to actor Philip Ober was even more tumultuous, marked by jealousy and abuse.

Vance endured physical violence at the hands of Ober, which left her emotionally scarred, yet she continued to perform, masking her pain behind her comedic talent.

 

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The pressures of fame began to take their toll, leading to a breakdown during a tour of the play “The Voice of the Turtle” in 1945.

It was during this time that Vance sought therapy for her mental health struggles, a brave step in an era when such issues were rarely discussed openly.

Her experiences in therapy shaped her perspective, allowing her to connect with others who were suffering, even as she continued to face her own demons.

In 1951, Vance was cast as Ethel Mertz on “I Love Lucy,” a role that would define her career but also trap her in a persona she struggled to escape.

Many believed she had agreed to gain weight to complement Ball’s image, but Vance clarified that this was a fabrication, a myth that overshadowed her true talent.

Vance’s portrayal of Ethel was not just a comedic role; it was a complex character that showcased her range as an actress. Despite the laughs she generated, Vance felt the weight of being typecast, as her identity became synonymous with Ethel rather than her broader abilities.

Behind the scenes, the relationship between Vance and her co-stars was often fraught with tension.

Her dynamic with William Frawley, who played Fred Mertz, was particularly strained. Their on-screen animosity mirrored their off-screen disdain, which was exacerbated by Frawley’s struggles with alcohol.

Vance’s conflicts with Lucille Ball were also well-documented, including a memorable incident during Ball’s pregnancy when Vance’s sharp tongue elicited laughter from the crew, ultimately solidifying their comedic chemistry.

 

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Vance’s achievements were recognized when she became the first female recipient of the Emmy Award for Outstanding Supporting Actress in 1954. However, the accolade came with its own set of challenges.

While she had reached a pinnacle of success, Vance grappled with feelings of inadequacy and the fear of being forever known as “Ethel.” Despite earning a significant salary by the show’s sixth season, she felt trapped in a role that overshadowed her other talents.

As the years progressed, Vance sought to reclaim her identity, taking on various roles outside of “I Love Lucy.” She appeared in commercials and guest spots on other shows, striving to show that she was more than just Ethel Mertz.

Yet, the shadow of her iconic character loomed large, and she faced numerous setbacks in her attempts to return to Broadway.

In 1965, at the height of her fame, Vance made the shocking decision to leave “I Love Lucy.” This bold move came as a surprise to fans and colleagues alike, as she stepped away from the security of a beloved role to seek creative freedom.

 

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Vance’s final years were marked by health struggles, including a battle with breast cancer, which she kept largely private. Despite her declining health, she continued to work, appearing in a CBS special alongside Lucille Ball in 1977, where the two shared a heartfelt reunion.

Vivian Vance passed away on August 17, 1979, leaving behind a complex legacy that intertwined triumph and tragedy.

In her final letters, she expressed the pain of a life spent in the spotlight, addressing the industry’s mistreatment of women and her desire to direct—a dream that was consistently thwarted.

Though she achieved great success, Vance’s story is a poignant reminder of the often-hidden struggles faced by those in the entertainment industry, illuminating the resilience of a woman who fought for her place in a world that sought to define her.