At 79, Brigitte Bardot finally broke her silence about the secret love life of British actor Dirk Bogarde, revealing his lifelong relationships with seven men — a truth hidden for decades due to fear and prejudice — turning his story from Hollywood mystery into a moving testament to love, courage, and authenticity.

At 79, Dirk Bogarde's Co-Star Brigitte Bardot confirmed rumors he dated  seven men in secret.

In 2013, under the soft Mediterranean light of her villa in St.Tropez, French icon Brigitte Bardot uttered words that rippled through the world of cinema — words that would quietly rewrite the history of one of Britain’s most enigmatic stars.

At 79, Bardot, known for her beauty, defiance, and unfiltered honesty, revealed what Hollywood had whispered about for decades but never dared to say aloud: that Dirk Bogarde, the silver-haired English gentleman adored by millions, had lived his entire life concealing the truth of who he really was.

According to Bardot, Bogarde — the star of The Servant (1963), Victim (1961), and Death in Venice (1971) — had secretly loved seven men throughout his lifetime.

“He was surrounded by women who worshipped him,” Bardot told a close friend that summer.

“But his true loves were men — men he could never claim in the open.”

The revelation, made during a private gathering at her seaside home, was not meant as scandal, but as homage.

“He carried so much elegance, sorrow, and restraint,” Bardot said softly.

“Dirk’s life was a poem written in whispers.”

Among the names Bardot mentioned were Anthony Forwood — Bogarde’s devoted companion for more than 40 years — and six others who had shaped his emotional world: actors James Fox, John Fraser, Michael Redgrave, Laurence Harvey, director John Schlesinger, and Italian maestro Luchino Visconti.

Each relationship, Bardot suggested, existed in the fragile space between admiration and forbidden affection.

Bogarde, who died in 1999 at the age of 78, was one of Britain’s most complex and layered actors.

At 79, Dirk Bogarde's Co-Star Brigitte Bardot confirmed rumors he dated  seven men in secret. - YouTube

In Victim (1961), he made cinematic history as the first leading man to portray a homosexual character sympathetically on screen — a daring move that nearly destroyed his career but ultimately helped change British cinema forever.

The film’s bold exploration of blackmail and repression mirrored Bogarde’s own hidden existence.

“It was the closest he ever came to confession,” said one film historian.

Friends recalled that Bogarde’s relationship with Anthony Forwood, his co-star turned personal assistant, was one of deep companionship and mutual dependence.

They lived together in a modest French farmhouse in the south of France, away from the prying eyes of the British press.

Forwood, who later fell ill with cancer, was cared for by Bogarde until his death in 1988.

“It was love without labels,” Bardot reflected.

“They built a life that was invisible to the world but real to them.”

The actor’s friendships with other figures in the European art world — particularly Visconti and Schlesinger — also bore traces of unspoken emotion.

Visconti, an open homosexual at a time when it was still taboo, reportedly admired Bogarde’s quiet strength and the way he channeled suppressed longing into his performances.

When Death in Venice premiered in 1971, critics marveled at the film’s haunting beauty, unaware of how personally it mirrored Bogarde’s own inner struggle with identity, desire, and decay.

By the time Bardot spoke publicly about him, over a decade after his death, attitudes had changed.

What once would have been a scandal was now seen as a touching revelation — a testament to a man who lived with integrity, even within the confines of silence.

 

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“He never betrayed himself,” Bardot said.

“Even when the world demanded that he pretend.”

Film scholars today see Bogarde as a trailblazer who paved the way for honest portrayals of queer experience in cinema.

His performances — subtle, conflicted, and profoundly human — broke the mold of the “stiff upper lip” British hero.

“Dirk gave us vulnerability wrapped in composure,” wrote one critic.

“He was every man’s mirror and every woman’s mystery.”

For Bardot, the decision to speak after decades of discretion wasn’t about gossip.

It was about honoring truth.

“We all wear masks,” she said in that 2013 conversation.

“Dirk’s was made of charm and grace.

But behind it, there was courage — the courage to love in a world that didn’t allow it.”

Today, her words resonate even more deeply as cinema and society continue to re-examine the personal costs behind public personas.

Dirk Bogarde’s life, once defined by restraint, has become a symbol of quiet rebellion — a reminder that authenticity, even when hidden, leaves an eternal mark.

In the end, Brigitte Bardot’s revelation is not a scandalous confession, but a love letter to a man who lived and died by his own truth.

And for the first time, the world seems ready to hear it.